So, how are your New Year's Resolutions coming?
Are you working towards them daily?
Or, have you started and stopped and told yourself it doesn't matter. Maybe your brain told you...
"It’s too hard."
"It takes too much time."
Or my favorite..... "It doesn’t matter anyway."
Stop listening to your brain's chatter.
Your brain wants things to stay the same.
There is a tool I learned in life coach training that helps clients begin doing something that they want to do but, currently aren't doing like.. maybe becoming a marathon runner ,or a writer or to learn the French language.
Whatever big goal you had for yourself at the beginning of the year and currently aren't doing the secret to starting is …….to start small.
Set a minimum baseline.
Let me explain.... let’s say you made a resolution to work out regularly this year but you haven’t actually made it to the gym or maybe you were going regularly in January and then life got in the way and you decided to try again next year....
The key to success is to make a ridiculously small commitment to yourself, set a minimum baseline of how much you will work out in a week. It could be 5 minutes on the treadmill 3 days a week or even simpler a 5 minute walk three days a week. That’s it. You gotta put your shoes on and go 5 minutes, 3 days a week.
After you get good at keeping that commitment for a week or two then you up it to 4 days a week then 5 then 6 then 7 and then you increase the time. The point is you show up and you keep this commitment to yourself, to become a person who works out and succeed at your resolution.
Now your brain is going to fight you. Your brain is going to tell you that your minimum baseline is too small, it’s stupid, don’t bother. But, I encourage you not to listen. Keep the commitment to yourself. If you do, by the end of the year, you will think of yourself in a whole new way.
If you find yourself not doing your minimum then your minimum is too big and you need to go smaller.
Say you want to write a novel this year and you set a minimum baseline of writing 15 minutes, 5 days a week but you don’t honor that commitment, back it off, it's too big. Go to 5 minutes, 3 times a week. You pour yourself a cup of coffee, pull out your laptop or your favorite pencil and notepad and you write. It’s okay if you go over the minimum but, darling, do your best to never go under your minimum baseline.
Maybe your goal this year was to drink less chardonnay. So, you say to yourself you are going to not drink one day a week. After a successful week or two you increase it to not drinking two days a week and so on until maybe it becomes just a weekend treat or something you do when out with friends whatever feels right for you.
Was one of your resolutions to start a side hustle?
Committ to one hour, 3 days a week. One hour, that’s it. Work for one hour then increase the number of days and then the amount of time and soon you will be a person with a thriving side hustle.
It's Spring, the time for new beginnings, now go, dig out that list of New Year’s Resolutions. Begin Again. Small.
Show up for yourself . Keep the commitment to yourself.
Become a person who works out.
Become a person who doesn’t drink every night.
Become a person who owns a successful side hustle.
Become part of the 9% of people who accomplish their goals and new years resolutions.
Start Small. Achieve Big. xo