Growing up, I was afraid of the dark. I was convinced that all sorts of terrible things would happen to me as soon as my parents tucked me and said "Good night." Many nights I would lay in bed paralyzed with fear hearing all sorts of noises that I was convinced were from a burglar loose in the house. Then I would yell “Daddy” at the top of my lungs and he would come to my rescue. And every time those noises ultimately ended up being the furnace or my cat meandering around my room.
Truly, my house was never broken into. I had nothing to base my fear on, it was all in my imagination but, it took years before I figured out how to deal with it.
That’s the thing about fears, most of the things that we are afraid of never actually happen and we waste a great deal of time and energy worrying about them and letting them control our lives.
But I figured out a solution!
Simply.....I plan for them.
That’s right, I create the fearful situation in my mind, and then I plan what I will think, how I will feel and how I will act if it ever actually happens in the future. I become the “She-Hero” over my fear.
So, my plan, if I ever come face to face with a burglar is to act like I’m expecting them. That’s right , I’ll say…“Hello! Nice to see you! I was expecting you! Can I offer you a drink perhaps a sandwich?” I’ll be smiling.
I figure I’ll catch them off guard and they’ll run the other way or I’ll make a new friend…. who would rob a friend right?
I’ve found that by planning what my reaction will be always me to take back control and ultimately I can then let go of my fear.
What’s to be afraid of if I know how I am going to feel and act? Mentally planning and practicing how you are going to not merely survive but, champion the thing if it ever actually occurs.
It’s a handy tool for anyone who worries. Plan for it and then let it go, move forward knowing you have your own back. Knowing you know what you will do if your fears come to fruition like... when things go bump in the night.
I. Am. A. Badass. And. So. Are. You. xoxo