You’ve heard the self-help gurus proclaim that the secret to happiness is living in the moment.
This is really great advice—except when it’s not.
If you want to conquer the annoying voice of resistance living in the moment, it can leave you stuck in the present.
Let me explain.
Most mornings, I wake up at 5 a.m. I’ve heard that it’s the hour when legends are either waking up or going to sleep. Some days, I remember that quote and I spring out of bed.
I am in the moment.
Other days, it’s much harder. I argue with my internal alarm clock. I want to hit snooze. I bargain with myself.
Let’s go back to sleep like everyone else. You can exercise in the afternoon. You have that 9 a.m. meeting. It’s going to be hard to get everything done. You’re too tired.
I reason. I argue. I throw a little tantrum in my head.
But then I remember one of my top five goals for my life is to be fit and healthy, so I start to coach myself with the zeal of Gary Vaynerchuk. I think about how I know I’m going to feel after my workout. The rush of endorphins, the shower after and the usual visit from my muse—it’s the future that ultimately gets me out of bed.
When resistance kicks in and stops you from doing something you know you really want, the trick is to pop into a future moment and think about how you are going to feel then, not how you feel in the moment.
Sometimes you have to stay out of the present and focus on the ultimate goal or how you’re going to feel at the end of the workout and at the close of the day when your to-do list is complete and your business is one step closer to the fempire you have always dreamt about.