Is It Me?

I'm not good at making friends.” My client told me this like it was a fact.

The actual facts are that she has a husband with dementia and a daughter who was recently diagnosed with a terminal disease. They were her friends, her support and now she feels like she has nothing and is in desperate need of connection.

“What have you tried?” I asked.

"I emailed two women recently and nothing came from it."

"That’s it?" I inquired.
"Did you pick up the phone?"
"Did you email them again?"

"No…..Do you think it’s me, do you think it's my personality?" Her voice quivered.

"Of course it's not you " I assured her.

She wasn't convinced. See, her brain has thought that thought for a long time which leaves her feeling lonely and disconnected.

I used to do the same thing.

I'd want something.

I’d try one thing, maybe two and then my brain would tell me it wasn’t meant for me.
My brain told me it was me… I was broken somehow.

It wasn’t true.
I was never broken, neither is she, neither are you.

When you want something you must take massive action until you get what you want.

Persistent, unwavering action.

Is it uncomfortable to be that persistent?

Yes.

Most everything worth having requires a certain amount of discomfort.

But, if you’re going to feel uncomfortable either way wouldn’t you rather feel discomfort taking action?

So, my client has her marching orders! She is supposed to contact these two women again and contact two more and two more after that until she has a couple of activities planned.

If you want something you’ve got to go after it like your life depends on it because your happiness does.

Whatever you crave.

Friendship.

New clients.

True Love.

Keep taking action until you get what you want. xoxo